Beautiful Boundaries

Journal & Affirmation Cards Bundle

Your energy is too precious to be wasted on plans and activities that don’t serve your health.

Setting healthy boundaries is more important when you have chronic illness. One of the main reasons is, because your energy is too precious to be wasted on plans and activities that don’t serve your health well.

And the other is, It’s important to limit the amount of stress in your life. That means setting boundaries with family and friends and learning to say “no” when you need to. It can be tough, but it’s necessary for keeping your health in check. Here’s why...

Is this you?

You feel like you can’t express what you want or need
You have a hard time saying no to others
You’re always the one who takes care of other people
Your relationships tend to be difficult, draining or dramatic
You find decision making a challenge
You really don't like letting people down
You apologise for things that aren't your fault
You sometimes feel powerless
You resort to unhealthy coping skills like chocolate, cake, or alcohol to make you feel a bit better, but often don't understand why (what's triggered the mood)
You complain about someone a lot - they do your head in
You fell like people take advantage of you
Your feelings are easily hurt by criticism or disapproval from others
You take on more tasks than you can handle
You often feel that loved ones don't show you respect
You find yourself trying to convince others that you are chronically ill, and it's exhausting
You often wonder who you are

But what if it could be different?

what if it was easy for you to express your want's and need's
what if saying 'no' didn't feel negative, what if it felt liberating instead
what if you felt looked after and seen, instead of feeling your always the one looking after everyone else
what if relationships became fun again, and easy, instead of exhausting and dramatic
what if decision making became effortless because you know what you want
What if letting people down became a rarity, because it will, once you start saying no to plans and asks that don't support you health
What if you mastered saying thank you to loved ones for being flexible, patient and understanding, instead of constantly apologising for the limitations chronic illness puts on you, it's not your fault
what if you can move past trying to explain 'why' over and over again and accept you don’t owe anyone an explanation they’re not willing to accept gracefully, that's on them
What if you felt respected, and appreciated, instead of feeling like everyone takes advantage of you
what if you had your own set of rules (beautiful boundaries) to live your life by
what if saying, 'I’m sorry honey, I’m really not feeling up to cooking tonight. Do you mind fending for yourself?' could be expressed guilt free
what if saying, 'thanks for the offer but i wont be able to join you, that kind of activity causes me great pain, could we do ....... instead? was easy for you to communicate
what if it suddenly dawned on you, It is not your job to prove to anyone that you are sick
what if you didn't worry about what people thought of you anymore, and instead felt what they thought of you was their business, not yours.
what if you didn't experience burn-out so often because having boundaries in place meant you can pace yourself

Setting boundaries will help you work around your limitations and capabilities, and help you pace yourself so you can lead a much happier and stress-free life.

Do you have boundaries in place to protect your health?

Setting boundaries plays a part in having a healthy relationship with yourself, self-love, and are a form of self-love because they protect you from the things that don’t serve you well mentally or physically.

If you don’t have any in place, your energy and happiness can be drained very quickly by things you don’t want to give in to.

Having a chronic conditions, you’ll understand better than most that energy is too precious to be wasted!

Of course, it depends on the illness you have, the symptoms it causes and severity of your health problems, but chronic illness often automatically limits you in what you can do physically, emotionally and mentally.

The limitations of your body and mind can affect your ability to study and work, play sports, raise your family, look after yourself and keep your home tidy. Even having something as essential as a shower can become a mammoth task, something like emptying the dishwasher is suddenly no longer something you do quickly whilst cooking, but again a task you need to pace for and recuperate from.

Chronic illness may force you to actively set boundaries around your life too. Pacing, for example, so you can avoid overdoing it, and don’t need to recover for days or weeks afterwards.

I appreciate though that setting boundaries for yourself is not as simple as it sounds. Having to go home when you’re having fun because you know you’ll pay the price later is disheartening. Turning down invitations because you know it’s going to be too much for your health. And then there’s the people around you.

How do you explain to your loved ones what you can and cannot do due to chronic illness, especially when that changes from day to day?

How can your family, friends and coworkers truly understand you’re not being an ass when you say no and put yourself first?

That you’re not being picky, or a fussy madam when you have to adapt plans so you’re able to join them?

That it’s not personal when you have to cancel appointments at the last minute or can’t always be there for them as much as you’d like?

Hi i'm Emma

I’ve never been very good with boundaries. I’ll respect yours, sure. But when it comes to setting my own and sticking to them, not so much. I guess I never appreciated the importance of them.

It was only when I realised that not having boundaries in place, or should I say having poor boundaries in place had led to people taking advantage of me, I’d become a people please.

Poor boundaries had put me at risk of settling into unhealthy relationships with family, friends, partners, and colleagues. They had become a one-way thing very much, I gave too much, they took it all.

It was exhausting and it was hitting my health hard.

Sound familiar?

Here's whats included..

Affirmations

Create a more fulfilling and balanced life!

The Beautiful Boundaries Affirmation Cards are a powerful tool to help individuals establish healthy boundaries in their personal or professional lives. Draw a new card each day and focus on it. These cards are designed to provide positive affirmations that encourage self-respect, self-awareness, and self-care, assertiveness and confidence. They will increase your self-confidence and encourage you to speak your truth without hesitation. You will have the courage to stand in our own power and to say NO when you want to.

Set clear and effective boundaries with others
Say "no" when you need to, without feeling guilty
Prioritise your own needs and well-being
Build stronger and more authentic relationships
Encourage self-respect, self-awareness, and self-care
Increase your self-confidence and encourage you to speak your truth without hesitation.
Feel more empowered and in control of your life

Whether you are struggling to set boundaries with a difficult boss or work colleague, or establish healthier boundaries in your personal relationships, the Beautiful Boundaries affirmation cards can be a powerful tool to help you achieve your dreams, your goals. Start using them today with the Beautiful Boundaries and see how they can help you create a more fulfilling and balanced life.

Introducing the beautiful boundaries journal.

This journal will help you...

Set better boundaries
Bring focus to yourself and gain clarity on what you want
Communicate your needs with ease
Help others understand how you wish them to behave around you
Feel comfortable saying NO
Feel more empowered and in control of your life
Build self confidence
Maintain healthy relationships and avoid feeling overwhelmed or drained

Setting healthy boundaries is essential to your mental health, but it can be challenging to do this, when you worry about what others think of you or fear retaliation. The journal and affirmation card bundle will help you with this.

The journal is packed with prompts to support you to foster healthy communication and establish boundaries that work for you and your family. We are led by example, so those around you will see the change and copy what you do, creating beautiful relationships that allow each person to be true to themselves and their needs.

The beautiful boundaries journal is a must have resource!